Despite what pop culture and sitcoms may tell us, having high self-esteem or self-confidence doesn’t mean a person is arrogant, or can’t stand to lose (#everyonegetsatrophy). Self-confidence means someone has respect for themselves, and a steady, quiet confidence in their abilities and inherent worth as a human being.
While we probably spend a lot of time reiterating to our kids and other young people in our care to ‘respect their elders’ or ‘respect authority,’ we don’t always do a very good job of teaching kids how to respect themselves. And even worse, pop culture and the media actively tear down kids’ self-esteem.
Did you know that for girls, their self-esteem peaks at around age nine, but then promptly takes a nosedive? By thirteen, up to 80% of girls say they don’t like the way they look and are on diets. Boys don’t fare much better by this age, either; 40% will excessively exercise to bulk up and look bigger because they think they’re too small.
Also, boys and girls with low self-confidence are at an increased risk of:
• Doing drugs
In contrast, kids with high self-esteem are:
• Smile more
• Feel good about themselves
• Feel good about the world and their place in it
• Are independent
• Can take calculated risks
• Draw positive, emotionally healthy people to them
Studies also show that kids with favorable opinions of themselves grow up to earn more money than their less confident peers.
Nobody wants their kids to do drugs, harm themselves, or live a life condemned to poverty. Also, as an involved parent, guardian, or grandparent, you want the special young people in your life to make good choices about the people they associate with.
While the consequences of low self-esteem in childhood and adolescence can be dire, there are simple and proven steps parents can take to help boost their children’s self-confidence.
Studies indicate that for teens, their biggest wish is that their parents would communicate better with them. Kids want frequent and more open conversations with their parents.
Sometimes just sitting down with your child for a ‘talk’ can seem intimidating, or confrontational. Shy, or anxious kids will most likely clam-up. If you’re a shy or anxious person too, you might even find yourself tight-lipped. Both you and your kids need an icebreaker, or a distraction while you get the conversation flowing.
So, what’s an icebreaker that’s affordable, fun, and studies show is an excellent method for getting kids to communicate and learn valuable social and academic skills?
That’s right. It's games.
And not just any games (especially not a computer game) board games and card games are proven ways to bond with your child and help them build critical skills for educational development and self-confidence.
Playing board or card games can help you and your child with:
• Engaging face-to-face
• Being present with each other
• Strengthening your emotional bond
If your child is struggling with low self-confidence, playing a board or a card game can help them:
• Learn that luck can change quickly with just a roll of the dice or a flip of the card. They can realize that being behind isn’t the end of the world and that their circumstances will eventually improve.
• Children can learn that even though they may be upset about something if they stick with it and keep working on achieving a goal, things will eventually work out in their favor.
• Learning to win (and lose) gracefully helps keep kids grounded and positive.
And even better, by playing board and card games with your kids, you’ll teach them these valuable skills that will boost their self-confidence while still having fun as a family:
• Kids will learn how to follow the rules.
• They will learn how to win gracefully and get a massive boost of confidence when they can beat an authority figure in a game fair and square.
• You can also teach your child how to win without bragging.
• In contrast, you can help your child learn how to lose without becoming despondent.
• You have the opportunity to model gracious behavior in a competitive setting.
Although teaching your kids self-confidence and communication skills is a critical responsibility as a parent, grandparent, or guardian, it doesn’t have to be expensive or complicated. RoosterFin board and card games are affordable and can fit into any budget. We also manufacture our games with the highest-quality materials, so you can play and enjoy them for years to come.
If you want to strengthen your bond with your child or special young person in your life and create fun, positive memories together, add a family game night to your calendar today and check out our line of board and card games for all ages and skill levels.
Thank you so much for reading! Please let us know in the comments how family game nights have helped you grow closer to your child. Got any suggestions for how to add a game night to your busy schedule, let us know those, too!